Ex wife stonewalling me from contact with kids?

My ex wife, the performing arts major, put on a production for the courts last year while I was away tending to my elderly father who had 4 surgeries last year. She was mad at me for not taking her back after she cheated on me, divorced me and I found a NICE woman for the last 3 years.

To get back on subject, she took advantage of the situation and her lawyer was able to get my continuance request denied for trial. They held the trial without me there to defend myself, and the judge ruled in her favor. So they took away my weekend visitation rights and replaced them with supervised, armed and monitored half-hour visits at one of those jail like centers, BUT ITS 3 HOURS AWAY FROM ME!! I said forget it.

I have been calling the kids but she does not let them answer, and she even blocked my phone number. I send them letters/gifts, and have offered to see them again under normal terms, but its been a year and she wont do anything nice yet.

Ex wife stonewalling me from contact with kids?playhouse

grow up.

first off, you are not telling the whole truth to the situation. How do I know you are lying? Because they don't order ARMED supervised visits with children.

Fact of the matter is, you didn't show up at court - and you can't use taking care of your dad as an excuse - you could have made arrangements for his care if the kids were important to you...like maybe this "nice" woman you are with...

The fact you refuse to see your kids just because it will have to be supervised visitation is pathetic. Your actions, or rather non action, by not going to court put you in the poistion you are in now - therefore, in order to see your children and be a part of their lives, you have to jump through the hoops the court has ordered - you brought it on ALL BY YOURSELF.

why are you afraid of a psych eval? If you don't have any psych issues, then you should be saying "go for it!" knowing they will find you have no mental issues.

Fact of the matter is, she doesn't have to be "nice" or let you see your kids or give them your gifts - if you won't do the simple thing and comply with the court order to prove you are a reasonable person who deserves time with the kids - then you are out of luck and need to quit the "victim" crap.

Ex wife stonewalling me from contact with kids?plays opera theater

You're not remotely portraying a fair picture of the situation, are you?

This is simply untrue or the product of someone who has lost all sense of reality because of their emotions.

Maybe you should take a step back and think about this from both sides before posting another question on the same subject.
Another crazy ex...gosh! There are so many of these ridiculous women all around...just gotta vent out the frustrations! Good luck to you.
You are going to hae to go back to court or the situation will never change.
Talk to your lawyer. Try getting the lawyer to use the argument that no matter what has gone on with you and her, the children have the right not to suffer and be used as pawns in the problem and they have the right to see their father. However, under UK law, the mother has the ultimate and final say in anything to do with raising her children and who (if anyone) does that with her, even if the father has parental responsibility. In the case of conflict, usually the mother gets the last say so you need a clever lawyer to convince her and her lawyer that you should be able tosee them. As for the three hour drive each way, isn't half an hour better than nothing and as such make the best of any chance you get to see them. It will stand in your favour with the courts.
I read an interesting article on how negatively divorce affects men in this country. Divorce will put you in crisis mode. They say the five top crisis are the death of a child, losing a spouse, change in finances, losing a home, and losing a relationship with a child. In divorce you are faced with each one except the first. I can only imagine how hard this is for you. My father cheated on my mother, but at least she got the kids. You are fortunate to have someone. I would reccommend you contact a therapist, a lawyer, and a support group. Good luck, and know you are not alone.
I'm not an attorney but either she's nuts or you're not telling us the entire story. Why would a judge go along with "supervised, armed and monitored half-hour visits at one of those jail like centers"?

If she's nuts, spend the big bucks and get an attorney who is better than hers. Your kids are worth every penny of it.
you should have shown up at the trial. there was absolutely no excuse for you not to be there. if your child was in the hospital due to life threatening circumstances, would you have used that same excuse? something went on for them to go to such lengths to protect the children. and you are refusing to be a father because it is not on your tems. if you wanted any terms, you would have shown up at trial. you could have gone to the supervised visits, then after six months asked for a modification for more leeway in visitation. then eventually overnight visits. and weekends. but you screwed up. take the pshycological exam. do the visitation and work your way up.

you made a huge mistake. now there is nothing left but to do damage control.
I agree that you should take her to court. The games that she plays are only hurting the kids. Fight her with the law and make sure your available for all of your hearings. Good Luck!